How To Build Confidence From Within And Really Show Up In Work (& Life)

How To Build Confidence From Within And Really Show Up In Work (& Life)

“When you squeeze an orange, you’ll always get orange juice to come out. What comes out is what’s inside. The same logic applies to you: when someone squeezes you, puts pressure on you, or says something unflattering or critical, and out of you comes anger, hatred, bitterness, tension, depression, or anxiety, that is what’s inside. If love and joy are what you want to give and receive, change your life by changing what’s inside.” Wayne Dyer   I love this quote from Wayne Dyer. It really speaks to me in terms of how we THINK, how we SHOW UP, and how we FEEL in our work and life on a daily basis.   How do you FEEL at work? For me … in the past at work I have at times felt awkward. There was this idea in my mind that I would be “found out.” Other women corporate leaders have shared this same feeling. We felt we were not deserving of the title or job because of some story that we completely made up. And why is there this “story”? Because I was always looking to be liked or approved or validated by others, I would adapt to the people around me. I FELT that I wasn’t enough on my own but rather used my environment, or boss, or peers to give me that sense of confidence. It was the accomplishment, the promotion, and achievement that gave me confidence. So, it was always an external thing: insert person or reward to fill up my being and make me feel like I was doing a “good” job. So, who...
How to Sell Your Best You in the Interview Pitch: A Lesson from the Shark Tank

How to Sell Your Best You in the Interview Pitch: A Lesson from the Shark Tank

No matter what it takes, every morning you wake up with ‘this isn’t working, but I’m going to do this.’  I don’t care what obstacles are in my way, it’s not who is going to let me, it’s who is going to stop me.” – Lori Greiner, Shark Tank, investor, entrepreneur   A lesson on how to tell YOUR story – from the Shark Tank. I watched Shark Tank a few weeks ago, and a woman on the show shared why her sales were flat for a few years.  The sharks always chomp on flat growth.  She talked about how there was an issue with manufacturing, an issue with inventory, and another issue with… (you get the pattern).  Her pitch was unsuccessful. I watched another Shark Tank this weekend (yes I love the show) and a woman named Talia Bahr Goldfarb pitched a product called “Myself Belts.”  The problem the sharks found was the product had years of flat growth.  When the sharks asked why, she responded the economy was the issue, stores stopped buying inventory, boutique stores closed, and so she focused her efforts online. Four sharks chomped on her response!  One shark said a good product survives a bad economy and continues to thrive.  And two others said she didn’t have what it took to weather the storm.  One commented that Talia was too strategic and not able to get dirty and deal with the everyday problems of starting up a business.  Another shark, Lori said: “No matter what it takes, every morning you wake up with: this isn’t working, but I’m going to do this.  I don’t care...
An HR Insider’s Guide: 3 Ways to BOOST Your Resume

An HR Insider’s Guide: 3 Ways to BOOST Your Resume

Also viewable as a guest post with Talent Rocket   A vast majority of resumes are missing the mark …  The resume is the only real window to show a hiring manager what we are REALLY all about. We get 1-2 pages to describe our entire career, show what makes us different, and illustrate all of this in punchy one-liners. A vast majority of resumes miss the mark. Why? Writing and branding our work is essentially advertising. And unless we have a background in advertising, it is REALLY hard to dig deep and come up with what makes us REALLY who we are. Lets dig in to 3 common resume problems with practical solutions to help BOOST your resume:   1) Formatting Issues In my days of recruiting and reviewing resumes, my biggest frustration was an unformatted or unedited resume. I am talking about the details on font, bolding, font size, and these details do matter. This is the first impression and there are some easy ways to double check formatting. Solutions: Use one font on your resume. Use consistent formatting. If you BOLD your job title, do this for all job titles listed on your resume. Have a friend help you point out any formatting errors or ideas to improve.   2) Action Words Don’t Match Your Level The words you pick on your resume might be UNDER-representing your actual role and work experiences. As we progress in our career, it becomes critical to update our resume to BEST reflect our expanding skills, experiences and accomplishments. Try to avoid starting with collaborate or coordinate. Those words are vague...
How to Write a Cover Letter that Gets Noticed

How to Write a Cover Letter that Gets Noticed

Also viewable as a guest post with Talent Rocket   Cover letters (i.e. cover e-mails) can give you an edge in your job application by providing a succinct and customized summary to the hiring manager about why would be a great fit for the job.  Think of this as the interview before the interview.  So, how do you write a cover letter that gets noticed? CUSTOMIZE – CONNECT – CONCISE A cover letter that is customized, concise, and creates a connection will give you an edge! CUSTOMIZE: If you are not customizing your cover letters, you are missing an opportunity to highlight why you would be a good fit for the position.  Customized cover letters are better for your job search.  This truly is the interview before the interview.  Not only does this help you get noticed, is becomes your preparation for the next phase in the process – the phone interview.  The catch is that a customized cover letter takes time and can feel like a big task. Here are some tips to customize your cover letter: Read the qualifications in the job description and select three qualifications that match your skills and experience.  By selecting three specific experiences/skills and highlighting them in your cover letter, you are helping the reader understand why you would be a good fit for the position based on their qualifications.  This is also your opportunity to showcase results.  Rather than just saying ‘I have project management experience’, say ‘I have over 10 years of project management experience leading global teams.  My most recent project resulted in …..’. Brie Weiler Reynolds, FlexJobs Director...
How to Brand Yourself in the New Economy: be the Lemonade

How to Brand Yourself in the New Economy: be the Lemonade

This post was originally published with Stilettos on the Glass Ceiling, the ultimate resource for women in business, and with Talent Rocket.     “The good news — and it is largely good news — is that everyone has a chance to stand out. Everyone has a chance to learn, improve, and build up their skills.  Everyone has a chance to be a brand worthy of remark.”  Tom Peters   Now, more than ever, to navigate successfully in this new economy, we must brand our work in terms of the VALUE we bring to our target audience.  We have to show our target audience in their terms where and when we do our BEST work in the market. What Branding Yourself Really Means  In Tom Peter’s widely recognized Fast Company article, A Brand Called You, he writes, “It’s this simple: You are a brand. You are in charge of your brand. There is no single path to success. And there is no one right way to create the brand called You. Except this: Start today. Or else.” Branding yourself is all about describing your value in the market to sell yourself for a new job, promotion, or project.  When someone asks you what you do – how do you respond in one to two minutes?  In your networking discussions and cover e-mails, how do you describe your experiences, and what you can offer? Are you describing yourself in terms of your skills? Or in terms of how you can solve their problem?  Are you using your language?  Or are you using language that resonates with your customer?  Are you talking about yourself first?  Or listening to...
How to Reframe Failure and Find Courage with an Experimental Mindset

How to Reframe Failure and Find Courage with an Experimental Mindset

The original article was posted here on the outstanding women’s business blog Stilettos on the Glass Ceiling.   “Perceived failure can become a catalyst for profound reinvention.” Conan O’Brien   Hello SOTGC community! Ok … lets get right to this topic of failure. You were let go from a job, the business didn’t work out, you made a mistake on a project, you weren’t picked for an assignment, or perhaps you could have done better on that presentation last month. We all know that mistakes and failures are part of our life. And most of us know that it is how we deal with actual failure, perceived failure, or a fear of failure that matters. Why is failure so hard to deal with if we know its part of life and we know it’s a possibility? Lets start with the basics. What does it mean to fail? To Fail (v.): “to fall short of success or achievement in something expected, attempted, desired, or approved” (dictionary.com) To Fail (v.): “Be unsuccessful in achieving one’s goal” (Oxford dictionary) So, to fail you: Must have a goal Must make an attempt Since we all have had goals and made attempts at them in our past … we also have had failures and successes. Looking back at your failures and successes – how did you feel when you failed? How did you feel when you succeeded? You felt so much better when you achieved that goal versus fell short right? When you won that award, landed that project, or got the promotion, it just feels great to achieve those goals. When we look...